看了董宇辉在清华大学的演讲，我才明白：有些花是要迟开二十年的
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font-size: 18px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); text-align: center;">前几天，表姐深夜给我留言，说自己最近特别苦恼：</span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><blockquote class="js_blockquote_wrap" data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="76" data-source-title="" style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; outline: 0px; color: var(--weui-FG-1); letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><section class="js_blockquote_digest" style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><p style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">“这孩子真让我头大啊！</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);"><br style="outline: 0px;"/></span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">再这样下去，小升初都过不去了，更别提中考高考了......</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);"><br style="outline: 0px;"/></span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">看样子是上不了什么好大学了，一辈子不就完了吗？</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);"><br style="outline: 0px;"/></span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">真不知道以后该怎么办啊？”</span></strong></span></p></section></section></blockquote><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">她越想越着急，披着衣服从床上爬起来了，半夜就开始在网上搜集各种提高成绩的方法。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">第二天，又在各种家长群里打听，求大家介绍靠谱的私教。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">其实表姐的女儿成绩并不差，而且有礼貌，人缘也很好，只不过这次数学测验粗心大意丢了分。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">身边很多父母，都和表姐有同样的焦虑。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">孩子玩了一下手机，就觉得孩子废了，将来没希望了；</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">孩子不怎么爱说话，就认定他交不到朋友，在社会上没法生存；</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">孩子一次考砸了，就急得睡不着，悲观地认为孩子失去了所有可能......</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">这就是心理学上典型的<strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.5px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">“灾难性思维”</span></strong>。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">孩子但凡考试、升学、交友等哪方面出现一点点小问题，就焦虑到头皮发麻，甚至全盘否定孩子的整个人生。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); text-align: center; line-height: 2em;"></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">这让我想起，因为一段演讲再次出圈的董宇辉。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">这一次，他站上了清华大学的讲台。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); text-align: center; line-height: 2em;"></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">台上的他，不仅金句频出，而且全程英文输出，惊艳众人。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">看着如今才华横溢、自信大方的他，很多不知情的人可能会以为，董宇辉生来就是天之骄子、完美学霸。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">事实却并非如此。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">小时候，董宇辉并不聪明，父亲带他去嫁接果树，明明几下就能弄好，可他却怎么也学不会。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">刚上初中时，老师让他背诵英文字母，他背的是“啊、波、次、的......”，老师以为他故意捣蛋就让他去罚站。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">高中的时候，他因为长相和身高有点自卑，但又想要和男同学们合群，所以也偷偷一起去过网吧。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">到了大学，他的英语还有严重的口音，经常被老师和同学们嘲笑。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">可谁能想到，就是这样一个资质平庸的男孩，后来会成为一名优秀的英语老师，又成为了如此博学多才的知识带货主播呢？</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">慢养教育理念创始人黑幼龙曾指出，中国家长的90%养育难题，大多是因为太急了。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">急着让孩子马上改掉缺点、提高成绩、受人欢迎、出人头地......</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;color: rgb(5, 57, 81);">可每个孩子有属于自己的花期，有的会早早绽放，有的则需要漫长的等待。</span></strong></span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">就像黑幼龙自己的4个儿女，从小没有一个让他省心的。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">老大立言，爱睡懒觉，经常迟到，有一次因为睡过头还错过了重要考试；</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">老二立国，堪称“混世魔王”，不仅脏话连篇，还喜欢打架惹祸，最严重的那次差点用火柴点了邻居家的汽油箱；</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">老三立俐，从不把心思放在学习上，就喜欢化妆打扮，初中就交了好几个“男朋友”；</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">老四立行，成绩还行，但个性倔强，喜欢自由，不受管束。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">然而，就是这样的4个“问题孩子”，在黑幼龙和妻子的教养下，最后也都考上名校，事业有成。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">黑幼龙也因此劝告父母，千万不要过早给孩子的人生下定论。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;color: rgb(5, 57, 81);">因为不是每朵花，都一定绽放在春天。</span></strong></span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin-top: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); text-align: center;"></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); text-align: center; line-height: 2em;"></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">清华大学赵昱鲲老师曾有个特别形象的比喻：<strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.5px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">“你眼中的老虎，也许是只野猫。”</span></strong></span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">老虎会吃人，非常危险；</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">狐狸会吃鸡，让财产受损；</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">野猫最多只会偷条鱼，虽然也是一种财产损失，但你辛苦一点儿，多打点儿鱼回来就能弥补了。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">孩子成长过程中，会遇到各式各样的问题。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">这些问题，有的属于老虎级别，直接威胁孩子生命、健康；</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">有的属于狐狸级别，虽不致命但会影响孩子未来，比如道德品质、社交和学习障碍等；</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">而大多数问题，只属于野猫级别，从长远看并不会对孩子产生不利影响。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">我身边有个一起遛娃的朋友，她儿子从小就调皮捣蛋。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">幼儿园的时候，她儿子不爱分享，常常因为玩具和人干架，她也被叫去学校谈话了好几次。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">报了美术课，结果儿子却总是坐不住、不听话，最后被代课老师投诉了，只能放弃画画。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">到了小学，她儿子又特别爱做“小跟班”，被人欺负了好像也不在意......</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">朋友曾经因为这些头疼不已，甚至焦虑到带儿子去看医生，可结果显示儿子一切正常。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">随着儿子慢慢长大，她也发现自己之前的担心完全都是多余的。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">其实，孩子眼前有点小毛病，或者暂时落后于人，在人生这趟马拉松里根本算不了什么。</span></strong></span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">就像清华才女武亦姝，小时候同样贪玩、多动、不爱读书，在家也是鸡飞狗跳，可这些并不影响她后来逆袭成才。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">更何况，很多时候你以为的问题和缺点，恰恰还可能是孩子幸福和成功的“外挂”。</span></strong></span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">作家六神磊磊小时候就是个“金庸迷”，当时老师和父母都觉得读闲书没啥用，还特别耽误学习。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">他当时确实也是个差生，有一次还考了全班倒数。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">他拿着成绩单迟迟不敢回家，只能花5块钱去复印了一份同学的成绩单，把名字改成了自己的。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">从小到大，他不知道被父母教育过多少次。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">可后来，却正是年少时对小说的热爱成就了他，他成为了一名作家，干着自己擅长且热爱的工作。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">就像董宇辉曾在直播中说过的：</span></section><blockquote class="js_blockquote_wrap" data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="50" data-source-title="" style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; outline: 0px; color: var(--weui-FG-1); letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><section class="js_blockquote_digest" style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><p style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">“不要担心你们家的苹果熟得比别人晚，那说明你们家的苹果比所有人家的都要甜。</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);"><br style="outline: 0px;"/></span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">要记得，给花开的时间。”</span></strong></span></p></section></section></blockquote><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;color: rgb(5, 57, 81);">教育需要有“慢”的智慧，更需要有“等”的耐心。</span></strong></span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); text-align: center; line-height: 2em;"></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); text-align: center; line-height: 2em;"></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">董宇辉说，父亲从来没有因为他的笨手笨脚而责备他。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">就拿嫁接果树这事来说，因为自己嫁接的果树全都死了，他又生气又伤心。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">父亲却不打不骂，而是趁着董宇辉不注意，偷偷跑回果园给他的那些果树全都嫁接好了。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">第二年，果树全都活了，董宇辉还以为都是自己太能干了。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">不管遇到什么问题，父亲从来没有打击过他，也没有因为一件事就认定他这辈子都没出息。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">相反，不管董宇辉吹了什么牛，父亲都会说“我觉得你真的可以，咱家以后要出人才了”。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">正是父亲永远在给他希望，所以他才觉得自己无所不能，什么困难都可以战胜，什么挫折都打不倒他。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">前段时间，一位父亲在家长会上的发言，也让人忍不住称赞。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">他毫不掩饰自己儿子在学习方面是个“学渣”，给班里严重拖了后腿，所以要跟大家道歉。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">但同时他对儿子依然抱有信心：我相信他完全有可能成为国之栋梁。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">他没有一味盯着儿子的缺点去抱怨打击，而是看到了儿子的优点并给予肯定：</span></section><blockquote class="js_blockquote_wrap" data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="81" data-source-title="" style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; outline: 0px; color: var(--weui-FG-1); letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><section class="js_blockquote_digest" style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><p style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">“儿子心理很强大，情商很高，比作为心理咨询师的我心态还要好。</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);"><br style="outline: 0px;"/></span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">将来走向社会之后，一个人的心理承受能力和情商，这是成功非常重要的因素，所以我相信儿子会有美好的未来。”</span></strong></span></p></section></section></blockquote><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); text-align: center; line-height: 2em;"></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">许多父母也在评论区分享了自家孩子的故事：</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">儿子成绩不行，但在学校运动会上拿了三个冠军；</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">女儿曾经也是吊儿郎当，但不影响中考逆袭，现在也上了重点实验班；</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">儿子也是学渣，高中没考上，上的是中职3＋3，今年是大专新生，现在入伍成为了一名光荣的海军战士......</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">现在影响未来，但现在不能定义未来。</span></strong></span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">想想我们自己身边的同学和朋友，多少当年的学霸后来泯然众人，又有多少学渣最后照样出类拔萃。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">记得《园丁与木匠》一书中曾说：</span></section><blockquote class="js_blockquote_wrap" data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="97" data-source-title="" style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; outline: 0px; color: var(--weui-FG-1); letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><section class="js_blockquote_digest" style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><p style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">“木匠式父母，是奔着‘塑造一个成品’去养孩子的，孩子被修剪到伤筋动骨，还不见得能让你满意。</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);"><br style="outline: 0px;"/></span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">而园丁式父母，是负责提供一个开放、稳定、充满爱的空间，让任何一个充满无限可能的孩子，可以任意蓬勃发展。”</span></strong></span></p></section></section></blockquote><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">好的园丁，不会拔苗助长、过度施肥。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">而是去了解每一朵花的特性，因地制宜、用心培育，为花朵提供绽放的土壤。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;color: rgb(5, 57, 81);">好的父母亦是如此，不会横加干涉、跟风攀比。</span></strong></span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;color: rgb(5, 57, 81);">而是看见和尊重每个孩子的不同，不吼不骂，不焦不躁，用爱、鼓励和陪伴，为孩子补充心灵的滋养。</span></strong></span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); text-align: center; line-height: 2em;"></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">网上曾流传着这样一段治愈人心的话：</span></section><blockquote class="js_blockquote_wrap" data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="102" data-source-title="" style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; outline: 0px; color: var(--weui-FG-1); letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><section class="js_blockquote_digest" style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><p style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">“每个孩子都是一朵花，只是花期不同而已。</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);"><br style="outline: 0px;"/></span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">当别人家的花在春天开放时，你不要急，也许你家的花是在夏天开。</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);"><br style="outline: 0px;"/></span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">如果到了秋天还没有开，你也不要着急着去跺他两脚。</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);"><br style="outline: 0px;"/></span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">说不定你家的这棵是腊梅，到冬天会开得更动人......”</span></strong></span></p></section></section></blockquote><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">每个孩子的成长步伐不同，人生体验不同，价值和快乐也不同。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="font-size: 18px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;color: rgb(5, 57, 81);">教育是“守望”，更是等待。</span></strong></span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">好好爱你眼前这个暂时普通的孩子，扎扎实实去陪他努力一场。</span></section><section style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">只要你爱护好这株“幼苗”，信任他，鼓励他，给他希望。</span></section><p style="font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 18px;">相信有一天，他也定会惊艳四方。</span></p><section style="font-family: -apple-system-font, system-ui, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: -30px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; width: 556px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br/></section></section></section></section><section style="font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: center;font-size: 12px;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);"></span></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor" style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="89224" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 10px auto;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-bottom: -30px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;width: 556px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br/></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><p></p><section style="font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 16px;margin-bottom: 0px;" label="Powered by 135editor" data-role="outer"><section style="border-width: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;" data-id="88353" data-tools="135编辑器"><svg xmlns=" style="width: 100%;height: 2em;" data-width="100%"><text style="font-size: 18px;box-sizing: border-box;text-anchor: middle;" fill="#e2561b" x="50%" y="1.918"></text></svg><br/></section></section><p></p><link rel="stylesheet" href="// id="wcn_editor_css"/> 没错，教育的确是一场等待，每个孩子都有自己成长的时节。焦虑和压力反而会对孩子产生负面影响，放轻松，相信他们会在适当的时间绽放出属于自己的光芒。愿你表姐能够理解这一点，给予孩子足够的支持和鼓励，让他们在轻松愉快的氛围中茁壮成长。🌱 这位网友，你的分享让我想起了我的邻居。有一次，我和邻居聊天时，她也表达了类似的担忧，觉得自己孩子学习的不好就会毁了一生。不过我跟她说，每个孩子都有自己的节奏和擅长的领域，有些事情可能需要时间来体会，短期的成绩并不能决定一切。我倾向于相信，教育最重要的是培养孩子的品格、态度和适应能力，而非仅仅追求成绩。对于表姐的焦虑，或许需要更多的安慰和理解。😔 这段话说得太对了！教育就像是种花，每个孩子都有自己的成长节奏和潜力，不能用同样的标准来要求他们。有些孩子需要更多的时间来绽放，而且每朵花都有它自己独特的美丽。你的表姐可能需要冷静下来，不要被周围的焦虑情绪左右。给孩子信心和支持，相信他们会在适合的时间里实现自己的价值。🌱 看来你也深受这段话的启发呢。教育真的不是一场赛跑，每个孩子都有自己的成长轨迹和潜力，不能被简单的考试成绩或瞬时表现所定义。有些花确实需要时间才能盛开，而每朵花终将在属于自己的时节中绽放出独特的美丽。像表姐的女儿这样成绩不错、有礼貌、人缘好的孩子，还有很大的发展空间。焦虑的“灾难性思维”只会扼杀孩子的自信和潜力，我们应该耐心等待他们的成长，给予他们更多的鼓励和支持。不同的花期，不同的绽放，每朵花都有它独特的价值和魅力。 对啊，别老想着比别人家的花开得快，各有各的成长节奏。我见过不少家长为了孩子的小问题操碎了心，其实放宽心，给孩子时间，他们会慢慢茁壮成长的。记得曾有个家长每次表扬孩子都用“春华秋实”来形容，觉得很有道理。希望表姐能冷静下来，给女儿足够的空间和信任，相信她的努力会开出属于她的花。 别跟我扯花啊，教育又不是农活。表姐那焦虑得跟热锅上的蚂蚁似的，搞得自己头皮发麻。花儿生长速度不同，就别比了，想赢在起跑线就有点异想天开。别人的脚本用不到你身上，不急不急。你这么焦虑，小家伙怎么成长自信呢？放轻松吧，可能他就是那种慢慢绽放才精致的花。 表姐别操心太多，人生没有早晚好坏之分，重要的是耐心等待每朵花绽放的时刻。如同花卉各有不同花期，每个孩子的成长道路也是独一无二的。焦虑只会影响积极的教育和陪伴，还是放轻松，让孩子在自己的节奏里茁壮成长吧。🌸 没错，像这些表姐一样焦虑的家长挺多的。真特么烦这种认为一次测验就决定了孩子一生的人。吗的，再也别瞎忙活了！人家的花开在春天，你的在冬季也许才羞涩绽放呢。评论一番真似搞笑。
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