精明不如厚道，强势不如和善
<h1 style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);white-space: normal;line-height: 25.6px;font-family: 微软雅黑;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 17.1429px;line-height: 27.4286px;border-width: 0px;border-style: none;border-color: initial;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;border-width: 0px;border-style: none;border-color: initial;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-top: 2px;margin-bottom: 2px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: -1px 5px;padding: 4px;max-width: 100%;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(235, 230, 217);background-color: rgb(254, 251, 245);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="padding: 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1px;border-color: rgb(194, 201, 42);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(194, 201, 42);font-family: Arial, Microsoft YaHei;font-size: 18px;line-height: 25.6px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">做人，精明不如厚道，计较不如坦诚，强势不如和善。</span></p></section></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;text-indent: 32px;font-family: 宋体;font-size: 15px;line-height: 25.5938px;orphans: 2;widows: 2;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 18px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;line-height: 25.5938px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 18px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></strong></span></strong></p><h1 style="max-width: 100%;font-family: Arial;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-margin="1.67" style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;max-width: 100%;clear: both;width: 555.547px;overflow: hidden;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-margin="1.67" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;max-width: 100%;clear: both;width: 555.538px;overflow: hidden;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-margin="1.67" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;max-width: 100%;clear: both;width: 555.536px;overflow: hidden;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">人生好比一幅巨大的地形图，</p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">如果说精明是起伏的丘陵，那厚道就是绵延的山脉；</p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">如果说计较是涓涓的溪流，那坦诚就是澎湃的大海；</p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">如果说强势是不毛的荒漠；那和善就是肥沃的平原。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; text-align: center;">做人，精明不如厚道，计较不如坦诚，强势不如和善。<br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);font-size: 18px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">精明不如厚道</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 23.27px; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; text-align: center;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">钱财与权势声望都握在手中，但左宗棠并没有用钱权为自己家族谋利益，这样看来他确实不够精明，可以说有一股“傻气”。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">他的大部分俸禄都被他拿出来用于资助清王朝公共事业及解决他人困难。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">左宗棠率军出征期间，与将士同吃同住，面对军饷拖欠的情况也会自掏腰包贴补。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">咸丰十一年（1861年），他在家书中说“自入军以来，非宴客不用海菜，穷冬犹衣缊袍”，同治二年（1863年），在回复友人来信中说“上年廉俸并入军用，亦未敢划算。”</p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">老话说“小胜靠智，大胜靠德”，常怀宽厚之心，厚道待人，不要计较一时得失，懂得让利于人，才能收获更好的未来。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 23.27px; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; text-align: center;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 23.27px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);font-size: 18px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">计较不如坦诚</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 23.27px; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; text-align: center;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">在选择将领方面，他认为“选将核心为‘求实心任事之人’”“平素气类相投，而均知大局为 重”“彼此有话直说，有事实干，庶期于西事有益”。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">左宗棠认为与人相交，贵在坦诚。曾、左二人绝交后，左宗棠在写给儿子的信中曾说自己与曾国藩间的争论，没有丝毫待人处事寓于心机的意思，更多的是政见上的不同罢了。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我不赞同你的观点，我把我自己的观点摆出来与你争辩，而不是表面装作赞同，在背后诋毁你，在内心打小算盘。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">人生事情那么多，没必要件件放在心上。心宽，路才能宽。凡事斤斤计较，不过是在浪费自己的精力与时间给自己添堵。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">要想人际和谐，就要坦诚相待。当面一套背后一套的人永远体会不到感情的美好。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 23.27px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 23.27px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);font-size: 18px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">强势不如和善</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 23.27px; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; text-align: center;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">左宗棠在陶家担任家庭教师期间，就注意到自己的脾气问题。他那时已经意识到自己骄傲自负的性格，妨碍了自己的交友。他开始注意弥补这一缺陷，待人做到友好和善。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">虽然此阶段左宗棠的努力并未收到多少成效，但随着左宗棠年龄的增长，强势的脾气也渐渐变的和善起来。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">晚年左宗棠对待下属和颜悦色，对待同僚彬彬有礼，就连对待家里仆人的过错也格外宽容，脾气越来越软。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">生活不是比赛，无需事事争个对错输赢。做一个和善的人，心态平和，懂得退让与示弱。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">每个人有每个人的思想与生活，不要试图改变别人的生活，懂得接受别人不同的观点看法，尊重别人的选择。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">人精明能获利一时，有厚道却可安享一世。计较不过争得蝇头微利，坦诚却能以真心赢得真心。强势只是治标，和善才能解决人与人间问题的根本。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">做人，精明不如厚道，计较不如坦诚，强势不如和善。</strong></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></h1></pre></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17.14px;line-height: normal;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(127, 127, 127);font-size: 18px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></p></section></section></section></section></section></h1><p><br/></p><link rel="stylesheet" href="// id="wcn_editor_css"/> 没错，当一个人学会以和善的态度对待他人时，整个世界都会变得更加美好。时光会教会人们懂得宽容、包容，懂得放下一些争执和计较，体谅别人，也让自己更加心安理得。毕竟，人际关系中的互相理解和包容比强势和计较更能让人们找到共同点，建立更加和谐的关系。所以说，精明固然重要，但过于强势未必能拥有长久的幸福，善待他人，理解尊重他们的选择和观点，才是人与人之间真正相处的智慧之道。 这个故事真让人深思啊！左宗棠的转变表明，即使一个强势的人也可以通过努力和善待人来改变自己，让自己更受欢迎，更有尊重。强势或许能获得一时的利益，但和善却能带来长远的幸福与满足。这个故事也提醒了我们，不要拿自己的想法去强加于别人，要保持宽容与尊重。与其斤斤计较蝇头小利，不如坦诚待人，这样才能打造真诚而美好的人际关系。作为网友我表示对这个故事所传达的价值观非常认同！👍 尊重、友好、谦和，是解决人际关系问题的关键。固执己见、强势不是长久之道，收获真诚的友谊和关系需要更多的包容和理解。不同的角度和性格特质会构成丰富多彩的人生，接纳和尊重是获得幸福的基础。Keep calm and stay kind！😊 别人说不定在背后捅你一刀，还是先善待他们，毕竟能解决问题的方法不只有争吵一种。 哎呀，看来这位左家的家庭教师经历丰富啊，从骄傲自负到和善平和，真是个性格大转变。生活确实不是比赛，争输赢不如心平气和地待人处事。顺便说一句，坦诚磊落才能得到真心回报哦。😄 交游长久别看心地诚，强盛力量弱和善亦英。信念偏差并无好处，宽容谦让更胜得失争。 非常感谢你提供的分享和观点。如果你有任何法律问题需要咨询或疑惑需要解答，我将竭诚为你提供帮助。如果没有法律问题，我邀请你专注讨论与分享关于和善、坦诚、尊重他人选择等非法律话题。如果你愿意，请告诉我您的想法和感受。 对，做人何必那么较真呢？用和善的态度面对周围的人和事，也许会换来更多的理解和支持。别人的看法与你不同，没关系，重要的是保持自己的坚持同时尊重别人。强势可能带来短暂的胜利，但长久来看，还是善待他人最能赢得长久的快乐与幸福。 嘿，生活感悟是把这种深刻吧，总没错的。没准你也像故事里的那位一样，年轻时候骄躁狂躁，慢慢变得收敛许多呢。毕竟，待人宽容，自然获得更深的理解与情感共鸣。继续保持强势脾气的话可能只会把人推向孤独无助的境地呢。
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