每一个抑郁症孩子的背后，往往都站着一对“生病”的父母
<section data-mpa-powered-by="yiban" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: unset; margin-left: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="margin: 8px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px;">每次谈到“全能性自恋”心理的症状，总会有抑郁症孩子的家长说，对对对，我们家孩子就是这样：</span></p><blockquote class="js_blockquote_wrap" data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="91" data-source-title="" data-text="自卑又自恋，觉得自己是神，要求一切要围着自己转，追求完美。抗挫力差，只要世界不完全按照自己的意愿运行，就会愤怒烦躁。
愤怒之后倍感无助，对人际关系回避，不愿去学校。沉迷游戏，作息颠倒。" data-editid="6hhkyhsrjc0odi9mgw" style="margin: 1em 0px; padding: 4px 0px 0px 10px; outline: 0px; border-left: 3px solid rgb(219, 219, 219); color: var(--weui-FG-1); font-size: 15px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="js_blockquote_digest" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: unset; margin-left: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: unset; margin-left: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: unset; margin-left: 16px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 1px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">自卑又自恋，觉得自己是神，要求一切要围着自己转，追求完美。<br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"/></span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: unset; margin-left: 16px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 1px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(110, 110, 110);"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"/></span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: unset; margin-left: 16px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 1px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">抗挫力差，只要世界不完全按照自己的意愿运行，就会愤怒烦躁。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: unset; margin-left: 16px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 1px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(110, 110, 110);"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"/></span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: unset; margin-left: 16px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 1px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">愤怒之后倍感无助，对人际关系回避，不愿去学校。沉迷游戏，作息颠倒。</span></strong></span></section></section></section></blockquote><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px;">后来接触多了，我发现有90%以上的心理疾病患者<span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">（抑郁症、焦虑症、强迫症、双相情感障碍等）</span>，尤其是青少年患者，大都有着严重的“全能型自恋心理”。</span></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; font-size: 15px;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">在心理学上，有全能性自恋心理的人，被称为</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“巨婴”</strong></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">。</span></span></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px;">今天我们就来聊聊“巨婴”吧，看看巨婴是如何养成的？建议花5分钟看完下面的文字，也许会帮你解开很多困惑。</span></p><section style="margin: 8px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; line-height: 2em; text-align: center;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"/></section><section data-support="96编辑器" data-style-id="51607" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: unset; margin-left: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-align="title" style="margin: 10px 0px; padding: 0px 0px 7px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; text-align: center;"><section style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: unset; margin-left: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; display: inline-block;"><section style="margin: 0px 0px -8px 24px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 9px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; width: 50px; background-color: rgb(254, 254, 254); transform: rotate(0deg);"><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p></section><section style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: unset; margin-left: 0px; padding: 1px 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(115, 133, 131);"><section style="margin: 11px -15px -8px 15px; padding: 6px 20px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(115, 133, 131);"><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 2px; color: rgb(254, 254, 254); box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">巨婴背后都有一对生病的父母</strong></p></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin: 8px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; line-height: 2em; text-align: center;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"/></section><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px;">先解释一下，“巨婴”这个词的由来。</span></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px;">著名心理学者武志红，写过一本书叫《巨婴国》，里面讲到中国相当数量的人是巨婴。</span></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px;">心理滞留在婴孩水平的成年人，被定义为巨婴。具体标签有：<strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">依赖、自私、自恋、抗挫力极低、独立性</span></strong><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">差等。</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px;">大家看看这些标签，是不是和近年流行起来的名词“妈宝男”非常像？是的，“妈宝男”就是巨婴的一种。</span></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; font-size: 15px;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">巨婴有个共同的特点：</span><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">每个巨婴的背后，都站着一位无所不能的圣母。</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px;">在这里，圣母只是泛指，不单指妈妈，指的是父母或养育者。</span></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px;">毫无疑问，父母都爱孩子。但正是这份“生命不能承受之重”，让孩子从小到大，一次又一次，被妈妈用“母爱”的刀，雕刻成了脆弱、依赖、没担当、没主见的模样。</span></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px;">看到这里，您可能觉得，溺爱就是“慈母多败儿”中的慈母，因为溺爱，把孩子毁了。</span></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; font-size: 15px;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">其实您只理解对了一半。</span><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">圣母中，溺爱型只占一小部分。还有一个更普遍的类型——控制型父母。</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px;">许多父母都懂得溺爱孩子的危害，她们在生活里时常提醒自己不能溺爱孩子，但最终，却走到了相反的方向。</span></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px;">这些圣母对孩子并不是百依百顺，而是要孩子对她们百依百顺。</span></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"></p><section style="margin: 8px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; line-height: 2em; text-align: center;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"/></section><section data-style-id="51607" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: unset; margin-left: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-align="title" style="margin: 10px 0px; padding: 0px 0px 7px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; text-align: center;"><section style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: unset; margin-left: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; display: inline-block;"><section style="margin: 0px 0px -8px 24px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 9px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; width: 50px; background-color: rgb(254, 254, 254); transform: rotate(0deg);"><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p></section><section style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: unset; margin-left: 0px; padding: 1px 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(115, 133, 131);"><section style="margin: 11px -15px -8px 15px; padding: 6px 20px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(115, 133, 131);"><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 2px; color: rgb(254, 254, 254); box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">控制型父母</strong></p></section></section></section></section></section><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px;">我们来看看控制型圣母是如何诞生的？</span></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px;">孩子出生后，很多妈妈找到了新的“重心”。她们与丈夫疏远，对事业分心，放弃自己的生活，把喜怒哀乐跟孩子彻底捆绑在一起。</span></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px;">可以说，孩子的未来，就是她们的未来。</span></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px;">此时，妈妈所有价值感的来源，不再来自于夫妻关系，不再来自于社会关系，更不是来自于自己，而是只来自于孩子。<br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"/></span></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px;">德国心理学家海灵格有个理论，在家庭关系中，每种关系的重要性是有顺序的。<strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">简单说，夫妻关系，应该排在亲子关系之前。</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px;">如果妈妈只关注孩子，与爸爸疏远，往往会导致家庭关系的失衡，问题丛生。</span></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px;">孩子的这种感受，妈妈是看不见的，或者是视而不见的。她更会被自己的行为所感动。</span></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(5, 57, 81); font-size: 15px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">圣母从来不会问儿子是不是需要这样，她只会觉得自己应该要这样。这样做自己才会觉得心安，才会舒服。</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px;">她们永远觉得自己的孩子没长大，拒绝承认孩子会长大这个事实。</span></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px;">如果有一天，孩子长大了，想自己飞翔，圣母很难接受分离。</span></p><p style="margin: 0px 8px 0em; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-align: right; line-height: normal;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p></section><p></p><section data-support="96编辑器" data-style-id="32416" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: unset; margin-left: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 10px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: unset; margin-left: 0px; padding: 5px 0px 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; 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margin-bottom: unset; margin-left: 8px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; width: 50px; height: 1px; background-color: rgb(197, 197, 197); overflow: hidden; line-height: 0; transform: rotateZ(-46deg);"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"/></section><section style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: unset; margin-left: 0px; padding: 15px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; background-color: rgb(240, 240, 240); color: rgb(60, 60, 60); letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我慢慢地、慢慢地了解到，<br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"/>所谓父女母子一场，</p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">只不过意味着，</p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">你和他的缘分就是</p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">今生今世不断地</p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">在目送他的背影渐行渐远。<br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"/>你站在小路的这一端，<br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"/>看着他逐渐消失在小路转弯的地方，</p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">而且，他用背影默默告诉你：不必追。</p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; text-align: right; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">——龙应台 《目送》<br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p></section></section><section style="margin-top: -10px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: unset; margin-left: auto; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; width: 50px; height: 1px; background-color: rgb(197, 197, 197); overflow: hidden; line-height: 0; transform: rotateZ(-46deg);"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"/></section></section></section><section style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: unset; margin-left: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em; text-align: center;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; font-size: 15px;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"/></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 34.02px;">正如龙应台诗中所说，我们跟孩子的缘分是在不断地目送他的背影默默送上祝福。</span></strong></p></section><section style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: unset; margin-left: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; text-wrap: wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 34.02px;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; text-wrap: wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 34.02px;">但是在孩子的成长过程中，父母常常面临矛盾的心理。他们期盼着女孩能够早日独立，但同时又想保护她们，让她们在任何时候都感到安全。</span></p><p><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 34.02px;"><br/></span></p></section><p></p><p><br/></p><link rel="stylesheet" href="// id="wcn_editor_css"/> 孩子需独立，但需要保护感。
家长的心理真复杂。
让孩子学会独立自主，也要给予关爱和支持。
巨婴养成需重视教育方式。
不容忽视家庭环境对孩子的影响。 别管他们，我才最重要。没人懂我。 怜悯，却无法干涉。 都是家庭的影响。 说得对，父母扮演着重要的角色。有时候他们希望孩子独立，但又害怕她们受伤。这种矛盾心理可以影响孩子的成长。 父母心疼又无奈
希望孩子独立同时保护她们
不断送上祝福
但面临矛盾的心理 别奢望完美的孩子，每个家庭都有问题。生活就是这样，尽力做好吧。
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